Oh my! It has been a while since I clicked away at my keyboard.
Let me tell you why…
Have any of you ever had a moment when you felt crippled by your thoughts? If I had to explain the way that I have been feeling the past couple of weeks, that is the term I would use… “crippled by my thoughts”. Being crippled by your thoughts sounds pretty bad doesn’t it??? However I don’t think it is a bad thing. To me it is a time when my mind is busy busy busy with ideas and wonderful thoughts about our future and great ways to increase our simplicity and our happiness. I have been doing a lot of thinking!
I am a very thoughtful person. Not the kind of thoughtful that remembers every birthday of every family member (although I really do try!), but the kind of thoughtful that analyzes; and after I analyze I often reanalyze. That is the kind of thoughtful I am. So here I am analyzing marriages and how to make them good and strong and healthy. I am also a firm believer that every relationship is different and the uniqueness of each should be appreciated. There is not one blanket solution to having a fantastic marriage but normally an accumulation of tricks and tactics that both partners need to be willing to participate in.
The other day I was doing some reading and came across a statistic that stated 50% off all marriages will end in divorce… wow. On your wedding day, statistically speaking, you are only given a 50% chance that your marriage will sustain.
So this is why I have been crippled by my thoughts… for the past 5 weeks I have been telling you all about the things that add beauty to your wedding while completely over looking the things that add beauty and substance to your marriage. Why have I done that????
When I started the Wedding Wednesday series I truly wanted it to be a fun way for me to share wedding ideas and a way to share the work of great artist and shops from around the world. I have enjoyed so much meeting the individuals behind these great products and shops. It has been such a pleasure to talk with them and to hear about their successes. I am going to continue to share these great shops and people with you, but every now and again I might drop in and tell you a few of my personal thoughts… hope you don’t mind.
So this Wedding Wednesday (coming three days late; shame on me!) I want to tell you about one of the things that I think is part of the puzzle to a thriving and sustainable marriage.
That is it. Awareness.
One word means so much. Be aware that your marriage could possibly become a statistic. Isn’t that a very strong statement? Don’t confuse awareness with fear; do not fear anything, be aware of everything. Be aware of threats to your marriage and be prepared to tackle them with a vengeance; together.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We are not pros at marriage, but I actually don’t think anyone is. We are simply happy and are enjoying raising our two young boys. We believe that marriage is a learning experience every single day and often times it gets a bit more challenging as the years pass and couples face hardship together. We are also extremely aware that our simple happiness takes work, understanding, validation, compromise, and so much more. We are aware that life gives us choices and we have to make the right decisions to continue with our happiness; otherwise it could be a thing of the past. We are not fearful that our marriage is going to be a statistic; we are in it for the long haul.
We are aware.
Please be aware of your relationships and how precious they are; respect and cherish them.
Thanks for your time,